A Renowned Counselor, Speaker, Motivator, Entrepreneur and Author, with remarkable effect and feedback, the founder and CEO of Share Your Worry, a community where people find real time solutions to real time issues Mr.Frank Edem Adofoli has stated that, many spouses after marriage thought they have gotten their dream partner and rejoice over that. But in the course of the marriage where there is a problem, some made mistake by leaving their partners in search of another person of their king when ever there is a problem or they have not meet the right person. According to him, there is no such perfect person out there.
“Many at times when people are newly married, they assume they have a perfect spouse which isn’t so. Sooner or later when you come to realize that your spouse is not perfect, what do you do? Do you leave in search of your kind of perfect partner? There is no such being out there.” He explained.
In his statement sighted by Coverghana.com.gh news team, he added that, when ever there is a problem in marriages, it is left to the two partners to do things in the right ways to please each other than quieting the relationship or marriage in search for another partner elsewhere.
“The remedy to this is to love your spouse more, praise them for the things they did right and help them work on things which are their challenges. Let your spouse know he or she is not your number one but rather your only because you are married to him or her alone.”
“Your partner made a lot of sacrifice just to be with you, they gave up the world for you. They could have chosen someone else but they did not. They said No to others just because of you. They left friends they enjoyed company with so much for you, parents they loved so much for you, siblings they can’t do without just for you; Family names and legacy which they have carried for so long in exchange for yours.” He further explained.
He added that it is the responsibility of each partner/spouse to play his/her roles by recognizing the identity of the other in marriage. There should be no circumstances where either partner should insult or describe or use abusive words in the marriage.
“It’s your job to make sure they never need another man or woman again. Your spouse is created in the image of God and you don’t have to tell her she is stupid, senseless, or offensively say she is fat, outmoded or call him any unpleasant names.” He advised.
Mr.Frank Edem Adofoli siad, in some marriages, “the sad truth is, lots of spouses do this to their partners. They forget that such actions create wounds in their partner’s hearts, wounds that never show on the body but are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”
“The question is, can you say the same negative stuff to your own parents?” – He asked.